“Chestnuts roasting on an open fire….” News flash - the holidays are coming! Yes it was just Halloween – next – Thanksgiving, Chanukah, Kwanzaa, Christmas and National Fruitcake Day. In addition to these joyous occasions – throw in year-end, budgeting, reporting on your goals, performance appraisals, holiday parties, your childrens’ holiday parties, decorating the house, shopping for food, presents, snacks, long lines, short tempers, weird relatives, saying yes, no or maybe – using “I’ll try” a little too often. It adds up to one big stress ball – UGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!
I’m devoting my blogs in November… Continue reading
Do you ever get overwhelmed and feel like you don’t have control? It can happen so quickly and easily. Phones are ringing, texts are coming in, your calendar is full, crises seem to come from everywhere, and people come into your office and say – do you have a minute?
Try this experiment for one day. Before you do anything, pause and say I choose to…. This may sound too simple or silly – I challenge you to do it! You are training yourself to be in control. Here’s what a typical day… Continue reading
We all have it, it’s in our nature and keeps us alive. When there is physical fear, the feeling alerts us to get away to someplace safe. When the fear is in our head (no tiger stalking you), it serves to make us more aware. It’s an indication that something is happening which could mean we’re growing, taking more risk, or change is marching forward.
There is no need to deny the fear or ignore it; it won’t go away that way and it will begin to control our actions. Better to face it as an… Continue reading
Over time it’s easy to allow people to behave in a way that you don’t like. It could start off innocently enough, telling an off color joke or having someone dump their troubles on you. Perhaps it only happens once in a while. When the behavior becomes more frequent and you are uncomfortable or the situation becomes unpleasant, it’s time to set a new boundary. For many of my clients, setting boundaries doesn’t come easily. Following are some steps that should help the process.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” … Continue reading
Recently my husband and I added a third floor to our home. We moved everything we needed for five months down to the first floor. We slept in our living room on a mattress. I had a clothes rack hanging in the room with other necessities squirreled away in plastic bins and boxes.
Various people were in and out every day – plumbers, electricians, carpenters and painters. At one point it started to rain in the kitchen, due to a leaky toilet unrelated to the construction. At other points we showered at a local health… Continue reading